I am lucky enough to own a low-end Karcher pressure washer, with two different soap dispensers. So I do this:
1) pre-wash with just hi-pressure plain water to blast off grit & dirt (so that I DON'T scratch the pain in the next step
2) soap spray & gently "scrub" with the the soap & brush head. The brush head has multiple holes in it so the soap mostly trickles out at low pressure. I use a name brand automotive detergent (I think it might be Macquires, sorry I'm out so can't go look at the jug)
3) switch back to plain water & rinse off
4) using clean chamois cloth, polish dry.
Note I always take my brush attachment indoor & wash it thoroughly & store it in a closet to keep it dust & grit free. It is the only thing that touches the car except the chamois rags, and you can get a bundle of 20 for no too much at Canadian tire.
I do this in sections, as it is not good to let automotive soaps dry on your paint, and unless it is a dull, cold day (so not likely a day you're going to feel like washing a car on since the supermodel across the street won't be washing hers either

), you cant get all the car soaped before some has dried.
In the winter, I follow the same steps, but at at indoor wand wash place. *BUT* before I use the soap brush, I very, very thoroughly blast it clear with the hi-pressure nozzle, as I don't want the last owner's grit on my ride.
Up here, we have to do a lot of winter washing, because of all the salt they use on the trans Canada & in Banff National Park. And we ski a lot
EDIT: also moved to the Care Care & Detailing forum, where you will get a lot more reads
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