Ok I wrote a couple posts in the past about my starting issues and got some ideas and such, but I am still a little confused. I was told by a good member on here to test the starter manually, meaning not with the ignition but by jumping the starter to the battery. What my car was doing was, every now and then I would try to start my car and the car would only click but the starter would not turn over and there was no starter engagement whatsoever. I would lightly bang on the starter and usually that would allow me to start my car, but sometimes I would have to have somebody turn the key while I banged on the starter in order to get the starter to start.
Now, as I said above, somebody on this forum told me that I can test to see if it is infact the starter causing the issues or if it is something else, such as a messed up driveplate or a relay, ect...but I suspect it's my starter.
What I am wondering really is, how to I manually test to see if the problem is my starter alone and not some other component? This is what I did when I had the no-start problem:

I did that when the starter wouldn't turn over, I had the key in the "on" position, but when I put the two terminals together the starter did nothing.
I don't know if I did this right or what...I didn't do anything with the grounds -- I'm pretty clueless with electrical stuff.
Sorry for the long post, but this is my fourth starter and I'm starting to meet half my city cuz I have to ask them for help to 'start my car as I tap on my starter'. It's getting really old and it makes me late for work all the time.