Thnak you for your responses.
I am still wondering why it would NOT do the STICKING when the starter was jumped manually from under the hood, but I believe the bendix could stick in cold temps...I WOULD TOO he he

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First thing this morning I will pull the panel under the column then the lower plastic under the steering wheel to access the ignition switch and try it with a screwdriver. I have another used one in case it sticks to swap out.
If it sticks even with the swapped switch the it must be the bendix or relay as Dr. said. I have another starter as well to finalize the therory.
It's 6 am right now as the wifee has to work on this Sat sooo as soon as she leaves I'm gonna finish this puzzle.