I meant to update this and forgot. I bought the Anchor 9129 mount from Oreilly and the same thing occurred, it wouldn't work. It appears there is some kind of design flaw where the square piece is supposed to go into the bracket that attaches to the engine where it is off by about an inch. I actually was able to get the Anchor mount to fit but it made so much noise when I started it up and then even when I drove it that I had to put the old one back in, which is clearly OEM.
So I am definitely going OEM for this mount. I found it cheapest at
www.toyotaoemparts.com for 91 bucks which is cheapest that I could find. The shipping to me in CA is only 12 and no tax so this is going to be the one for me.
The tranmission mount actually could work while you would have to get another nut for the bolt on the top of the mount which you can see is not what it's supposed to be going by what the OEM illustration shows. I just don't want to risk the mount itself not working and going through the same time loss as the other one. Like I said the rear two DEA mounts went on without any problems.
http://www.deaproducts.com/
You can look up the mounts that are supposed to fit my car there.