You are making this a lot more complicated than it needs to be. Here is a spark plug gapper:
Costs $1 or maybe $1.25 from any autoparts store (I picked mine up from Autozone).
See the outer edge? Slide that into the gap until it's snug then read the side, that's your gap. See the hole? That's actually to increase the gap if you need, decrease the gap by pressing the edge of the gapper against the plug.
I always check the gap before putting on plugs but the vast majority of the time they are already the right gap. And of course, the easiest way to do it is to just buy your plugs from Autozone and ask them to check the gap when you buy the plugs.