I believe the 3mm is for the writing, and the 4mm is the light.
For the A/C, to change the light, you have to solder. It's a pain in the ass. I wrote this for it:
DIY: A/C Button Light and Cigarette Light Swap
Also explains the cigarette lighter too...which I need to re-do since my new led broke off and doesn't light anymore <_<
I would make the gear lights the same color except for reverse...seems better than just changing the light for when in drive. Would do red if the rest is blue.
Also, what kind of bulbs did you use for the HVAC ? It looks like all the red is pretty bright and spread evenly unlike mine...I've been using 5 SMD #74s...