Hopefully this follow up post will help some people in the future. i'm a complete newbie to anything electical outside of a basic physics course, so my quest in installing foglights has been a pain. however...with the help of a lot of friendly people, i managed to figure out how to wire everything.
my kit is an aftermarket oem style gen 5.5 foglight set.
It comes with the foglights itself, a wiring harness and a small set of nuts and bolts.
I found the wiring harness to be the most confusing thing as you can see in my original post here:
http://toyotanation.com/forum/t177345.html
Take a look at this picture here:
https://webfiles.uci.edu/rchirk/DSC00753.JPG
The item circled item on the right is a "relay" that plugs into the place where the OEM relay would go. That spot would be under the steering wheel as shown right here:
https://webfiles.uci.edu/rchirk/relay%20plug%20in.JPG
Another question I had was regarding grounding...
The harness needs to be grounded in 2 places. One inside the cabin, and one inside the engine bay.
Here is the first picture again:
https://webfiles.uci.edu/rchirk/DSC00753.JPG?uniq=z7ors
The black wire with the....copper circle... at the end gets grounded inside the cabin.
I found this to be the best spot :
https://webfiles.uci.edu/rchirk/inte...0grounding.JPG
It's right above the foot rest.
The harness goes through the firewall into the engine bay. there you connect the pigtails to the foglights and make 1 final grounding point.
again...it's another black wire with a copper circle as shown here:
https://webfiles.uci.edu/rchirk/DSC00752.JPG?uniq=z7orn
This gets connected to a bolt in the engine bay and you're good to go.
I think most of the ebay kits are either very similar or exactly the same...so hopefully this helps someone.
Thanks to snicko, le05, whitechocolate, trd vvti, goomph, johnyeez, touringcamry and everyone else who contributed to my learning experience!