So I am having trouble removing the downstream O2 sensor (after cat) on my 2002 Camry, 4 cylinder SE, 140,000 miles. I was hoping someone could give me some pointers! I want to be cautious because I want to remove the sensor, but want to reuse it.
I have 2 issues:
1) Unscrewing the sensor from the exhaust pipe: Tried this after a long drive (parts were hot), but it still wont budge. I am scared that putting too much force on it may put adverse stress on the corroding exhaust system. Definitely seized shut. Would spraying WD40 or other lubricants render the sensor useless?
2) Getting the connector off:

The red circle above shows a metal part that the connector sits on. Do I simply slide the connector off to the left or is there something else that needs to be done? I'd hate to pull it off and not be able to put it back due to me breaking something.
After removing the connector from this metal holding plate, how do I disconnect the male and female connector ends? Is there a release of some sort near the top of the connector (blue circle), or should I simply pull on it? Again, I am trying to avoid braking anything.
I'd greatly appreciate any help or insight. I have the Haynes book, and didn't see any details regarding any of this.
Thanks