finally.... after like 5 days straight of working on this, i finished it and got my car back together and running. sorry that i dont have pics, my mom has the digital camera on vacation right now. i used a tungsten carbide cutting bit on my dremel to do the grinding (which works reaaaaaaaaally well).
the parts i did grinding work on:
intake plenum-airflow divider right after the throttle body, mating of runners with intake manifold
intake manifold-mating of runners with head
head-mating of runners with intake manifold
the parts i polished (sanded using 80 grit sanding wheel):
intake plenum-air chamber, mating of runners with intake manifold as far down into the runners as i could reach (about 4 inches in)
intake manifold-runners all the way through
i followed the re-assembly of the engine with a coolant flush and fuel filter replacement. i also used some copper piping to bypass the coolant line that runs through the throttle body, so as to keep the throttle body a bit cooler. trying to get the car to start was a little difficult, most likely because the injectors might have been a little clogged with this white powder crap that developed everywhere while soaking the parts in degreaser. the engine would keep cranking to try and start, but wouldnt because of the injectors and because of no fuel being in the lines after being taken apart. after a lot of cranking it finally started and ran VERY roughly and slow, like 300rpm. i realized i had left a sensor or plug or some sort unplugged on the throttle body and that smoothed the idle, raising the rpm to around 600. just letting the engien run got the injectors unclogged and the engien eventually came to a smooth normal idle.
though i did limited amount of driving, power gains are definately noticeable. most noted is in the midrange, around 3500 or 4000 rpm and up, the car feels like it pulls a bit quicker. the gains in power are very linear feeling too, definately gains in all ranges. climbing through the revs is a lot smoother feeling and sounding now too. the idle is silky smooth, a big improvement from before the project.
i didnt have time to take off the heads and work on that cause school starts in two days

next chance i have some time off i want to work on the heads, and the exhaust manifolds as well.
im mostly overjoyed at being able to take apart this much of the engine and getting it back together in working order with the low amount of car experience i have. i definately learned a lot from it. got a bit quicker of a car out of it too!