1. whenever i start the car the headlights and tailights turn on automatically is this normal? If not what could be causing this?
Daytime running lights.
Look up toyota nation to disable it if u want to.
Do a Search
2. After a while of letting the car warm if you stay in the back of the muffler you can feel alot of hot air coming through it unlike my other 92 camry. And the engine tends to get hot on 40min drives. Is this normal.
Yes, it's normal
3. Oil sludge is nothing new to me since i own a 98 sienna that is currently sludged up.. Will chainging my oil to mobile 1 syntetic put a fix to that.
4. My car has a factory alarm but the guy that i bought it from lost the remote, is there a way i can obtain a remote for it.
www.ebay.com