Okay, hopefully this explains it a little better but it probable just shows how stupid I am but if you scroll down to step 1 (
http://www.4runners.org/writeups/headunit/index.html) there's a diagram showing the wiring. I have M1 and M2 spliced into SH (the harness that came with the new radio).
Now the problem is that I have no T2 harness only T1 and the M1 harness is to small to connect to T1 (M2 is half the size of M1). The only other wires connected to the OEM deck is the power antenna and amp (single plug, audio jack type plug).
Should I even have M2 spliced in at all but that still doesn't solve the problem that T1 is larger than M1.