Shane,
I feel the same way that you do. XM really should have been integrated into the unit. Anyway, I installed the Toyota XM unit in my '10 about 3 weeks ago. I used the 2009 instructions and they were exactly correct for the 2010. I think there's a copy of '08 instructions out there somewhere that are not the same. I think those guys have to put an antenna in the dash somewhere.
If you do the Toyota install, people warn you to be very careful removing the plate around the start button as it is extermely prone to stress marks in the plastic. These people are not lying. Another thing that I found out on my own, be careful with the drivers seat. Instead of taking it out of the car completely (it's heavy), I just unbolted it and tilted it back into the back seat area. There are bolts on the inside of the seat that will scratch the center console. You can't really see the scratches with the seat in but I still know they are there

Other than that, the install is really straightforward.
If you want to use the antenna with another radio, you can get a pigtail or extension cable made with the correct ends on both sides. I'm sure there are a bunch of places that would make them. Here's one:
http://www.vaistech.com/ecart/agora.cgi?product=10. Gooogle probably has several more.