Been there.

There is a correct order to reinstalling everything. If you try to force the cross member up onto the center bolts you risk damaging the threads on those bolts. The following is from memory. I apologize in advance for any errors.
I loosened or disconnected everything related to the x-member: lower rear mount, c-arms, sways, all the bolts to the x-member, the support brace that runs front to back under the engine.
Raise the x-member up into place and start the center bolts, all of them. Try to either have the rear engine mount on the x-member when you do this, or wiggle it up into place after you start the lower x-member bolts. (tight fit) Getting the engine mount to bolt through the engine was a huge hassle for me, but I got it with a bigass screwdriver, pulled it into line and slid the bolt through.
Once you get that work on the outer bolts, getting them started going back and forth, from side to side. You have to do get the sway bar up there as well since it's bushing support braces are part of what holds the x-member's corners up.
At this point get the c-arms back in place, connect them to the ball joints, put your axles back in the spindle, get the spindles connected to the struts, etc etc depending on how far you went.
Now tighten everything to spec. Put the car on it's wheels and recheck every bolt. This will be tough but it's important. 'Missing' a bolt or nit tightening it enough can cause you to loose bolts as you drive. They are replaceable but not something that's fun to deal with.
BLUE THREADLOCKER is a nice addition to any bolt you put back in and helps keep anything from coming loose.
Test drive the car for a bit to ensure you don't have to redo anything or replace any more parts. Be careful not to over torque anything, especially bolts that run through the chassis. Retapping those is not something you want to deal with. Once you are confident, take it for an alignment and hope you are done fixing for a bit
Tip: Many shops guarantee their alignments for 3000 miles or so. If you redo anything to do with the suspension, just don't tell them and bring it back with a mysterious 'out of alignment' complaint.