I don't think there is anything wrong with your tranny.
Most cars have trouble downshifting to 1st unless the car is stopped or going very slow.
Old cars you totally had to come to a complete stop to get into first period.
In my corolla I can down shift to 1st below 15 mph but below 10mph is best. This is how it is supposed to work.
There was a big thread on here a while back about downshifting while comming to a stop and the end consensus was this: The brakes stop the car that's their job.
The only reason I downshift to 1st is if I think I might have to go forward again like in slow and go traffic or a light about to go green before I can stop. Once you are in 4th or 3rd and cruising, you should just use the brakes to slow the car and pop it in nuetral before the car starts to get stally(depending on what gear you are cruising in) and stop the car in nuetral. I usually don't downshift past 3rd if i am comming to a complete stop.
If you do need to go down to 1st double clutching helps a lot. So: clutch in, shift the car from second to nuetral, clutch out and back in (this spins the tranny up to the speed of the motor), shift into 1st. This makes it easier in my car. Older trannys get a little notchy that's just how it is unless you baby the crap out of it.
I think as long as you use a quallity gear oil it won't make THAT much difference.
I have redline MT-90 now and it smoothed things out a LITTLE BIT from the Mobile One 75-90 but overall it worked the best when it was brand new and had the crappy stock gear oil in it
