I'm in the middle of doing the head gaskets on my 94 4Runner (140K), "Oh, what a feeling!"

Got the heads off yesterday! She overheated in the middle of a road trip and we had to stop and add water about every 100 miles between Ohio and Baltimore. Idled rough and white steam out the tailpipe but ran reasonably well enough to get us to Baltimore. I obviously assumed #6, but it didn't look "steam cleaned" like I've seen in other posts, looked like the other 5. The gasket sealing ring was a little crushed and separated from the rest of the gasket right next to the upper rear water passage hole of #6. Is that the Headgasket leak?
#1 & #3 exhaust clearances were .006, and #6 exhaust was
.004. Haven't got the valves out yet, (have to find compressor that fits into the spring pockets, Rentable? AdvanceAutoParts loanable?) Would clearances that tight necessarily burn valves? Truck had been running normal, what are symptoms of burnt valves?
When I removed the PAIR Reed valve, the 4 screws that attach the rectangular part together were all gone. Could they have fallen out? Last time anyone touched the engine was when the dealer did the HG recall at 30k. Is that a mechanics alternative to removing the valve from the exhaust manifold? Is there a gasket for that rectangular part that I need to replace?
Before I found this forum I bought a FelPro head gasket set. Seen a few posts where people don't recommend using FelPro gaskets. Have many people used FelPro head gaskets and had them fail prematurely?
I was considering using Bosch+4 spark plugs as part of the "tune up". I've used them in a few other engines (chevy 350s) and they make the engine run noticeably smoother. Has any one had any experience with them in the 3VZE?
Anyone recommend a good machine shop in Baltimore??