CEL = check engine light, sorry bout that
That crap they told you isn't exactly crap. That's what happens when ethelyene glycol gets into a transmission. That stuff attacks the clutches and seals and can ruin the trans quickly. This trans cooler problem is getting more frequent as all the 4runners get older. I read about this happening all the time now. Do a search for Pink milkshake, Strawberry milkshake or pepto bismal trans failures and see what comes up.
I would check the trans fluid and make sure everything looks good. Especially that it looks clean with no contamination left overs. Maybe go to Autozone or somewhere to have the codes read. Even though there's no light on there may still be a code. It may have not been thrown enough times to set off the light yet.