I know this topic is out dated, however, I thought I would share so others could resolve this issue. I have been frivolously searching the internet for days for a solution to this all too common issue with Toyota Highlanders and other Toyota models.
Only Driver side door will unlock with key fob or internal lock/unlock switch.
You can manually unlock the Passenger and rear doors with the internal lock toggle switch on each door handle on the inside
Key fob will still LOCK all doors
When trying to open Passenger door from outside, you get 10 beeps
The control module fuse box under the driver side dash area, below the steering wheel has a burnt out internal component
If you are lucky, it's only the fuse that has burnt out, but not likely
The actuators are NOT bad. I repeat, if your driver door unlocks and your passenger and rear doors do not, with your fob or manual internal button, you do not have 3 bad actuators. They are fine!
I reached out to a user on Ebay, he sells a bypass kit for this exact issue. My problem though, he only sells it for the Camry. I reached out to him the other day and he believes he can come up with a version for the Highlander, since it has the same under-dash fuse box. I should hear back from him this week.
Here is the link to his fix for the Camry.
I hope this information will help others. During my extensive searching I found this is not very uncommon at all. Specifically affecting the Highlander and Camry from at least 2008 and up.