Great posts. I'm going to jump in here with my plans for my 2016 Highlander. I would appreciate feedback.
My principle is to leave the Towing Vehicle's wiring intact. That means no splicing of cables on the vehicle itself. All splicing will be on aftermarket harnesses and kits.
First, I plan to install the genuine Toyota Harness (PT725-48140). This will provide the 4 pin output required for trailer lights.
Second, I plan to use the eTrailer kit to add 7 pin support as described here
https://www.etrailer.com/p-ETBC7.html (There is a video on installing on a 2014 highlander), except for a few deviations from their installation in order to keep the TV wiring intact.
First, instead of quick splicing the brake switch wire under the dash, I plan on quick splicing to pin 9 of the PT725-48140 harness (see the wiring diagram on last page of
http://www.landerfan.com/assets/installation/PT725-48140.pdf). This will require that I run a wire from the trunk to the brake controller that will be installed probably under the dash on the driver's side of the vehicle's cabin. Since the eTrailer instructions require running two wires to the front of the vehicle anyway, I though this would not be a big deal. I'll have to use a 3 wire jacket something like this (
http://www.rallylights.com/deka-10-gauge-triplex-jacketed-3-conductor-wire.html), instead of the two wire provided with the kit. It will also require that I route this wire into the cabin, which will then be a total of 4 instead of 3 wires going into the cabin.
Second, I am also considering splicing pin 8 of the harness, which is the 12 V hot instead of running the wire all the way to the TV battery. I will then run the wire to the 12 V hot on the 7 pin connector. Since the Toyota harness is protected by a 30 A fuse, I assume that the harness uses 10 gauge wire and that I can use a 30 AMP breaker between pin 8 and the hot pin on the 7 pin connector. Doing this will enable me to only run the jacketed two wire harness provided by eTrailer, one for the brake stop signal to the brake controller and the second from the brake controller to the electric brake signal back to the trailer.
Again, feedback will be appreciated, especially if anyone has done this.