Disable the whole thing, you might be damaging your ballast or bulb!
how can i disable it?yea disable the "follow me home" thing
i do have a knob to the left of the steering wheel but i believe it is for the brightness of the interior lights...BUT regardless i will check it out when i get home.....I remember that my old cressida had a knob next to the steering wheel that would control the length of time the "follow me home" feature would stay on. If you turned it all the way to the left, then the headlights would not stay on once the alarm was set. Do you have this knob? Just a thought.