do u have a link to the fogs? I got a set off ebay that sounds like what ur describing. I installed them myself, but it took about 4 hours (first time doing this type of installation. I could probably do it in half the time now.) As far as them coming on with the headlights, it depends on how u wire them. I have mine directly wired to the battery, so I can turn mine on whenever. I'm going to change this cause I've already forgot to turn them off when getting out of the car. Just need to wire it to the ignition. There's a certain wire that u need to splice it into. The fogs don't go off when u switch them to high beam. If u need some more info or pics, pm me, I'd be glad to help!