The clutch was finally installed last weekend. Long day last sunday :sosad:
Here's some notes. A local machine shop resurfaced the flywheel and it came out real nice. About $50.
The pilot bearing was stubborn. Did the grease thing about 20 times before it finally worked all the way out. Used a same size socket to seat the new one. It wanted to go in crooked but tapping on the high side got it straightened out. It's a snug fit.
The rear main seal was baffling... finally just carefully started picking at it with a screwdriver and it came loose eventually. New seal went in fine with motor oil on the inner seal and wheel bearing grease on the outer. Slow light tapping around the seal perimeter with a hammer got it seated correctly after a while. It's also a snug fit. Used a Fel-Pro from Advance Discount Auto was about $15. Markings on new one looked just like the old one.
Torquing the flywheel was tricky. Had to get just the right size round screwdriver to go in the flywheel hole to keep it from turning. Bent one cheap ass screwdriver before finding the correct angle.
Lifting the trans to mate with the motor was difficult but the idea was to see if can be done without a jack. It can. The alignment pins on the back of the motor help a lot and it went all except the last 3/8 " with a little shoving. Tightening the bolts slowly got it the rest of the way tight.
Everything else was just reattaching and torquing to whatever the specs were. I think everything is solid. Clutch operation is smooth and no leaks evident... yet :ugh3:
Could probably do this in a couple of hours if it has to come back out again.
One question... if anyone is reading this far down

both shafts on the trans seemed to have a fair amount of "looseness" to them but no leakage anywhere. I was expecting them to turn but not seem loose when pushed from the side. Is this normal? Or will I be having it rebuilt sometime soon?
I meant to take it by the trans shop before reinstall, to have them check the "looseness", but then just forgot about it. Oh well, seems fine.