Having been through this very issue 3 times due to other people hitting me, here's my take on it.
If your truck is under 2 years old and still pristeen (no scratches, you lovingly bathe it once a week and towel dry it, only drive it to church and the grocery store, still has the new car smell and you are using floor mat covers to protect the floormats from your socked feet...you wouldn't wear your shoes in such a lovely vehicle now, would you?....)... If your truck is in pristeen condition, yes, fight for the OEM parts to be put back on there.
However, if you are a MAN, and you take your truck off road, and it looks like an Abrams tank that's seen heavy battle, you've got scratches all down the sides, one of the headlights has been missing for months, it belches smoke out like a chemical fire, and when traveling in a straight line the body is cocked to one side, and one wheel is actually square, bailing wire holding the doors closed and the winshield wipers on ...you know...the way a REAL MAN drives his truck... If that's the case, really ANY part will be okay, OEM or not.
At the end of the day, it's still just a truck. You use it to haul crap from one place to another. Yes, we love them. But you have to realize that just as people get older and have parts replaced with non OEM parts, so do our trucks.
BTW, I had aftermarket parts used on my last Tacoma, and they didn't "really" fit. But it didn't affect resale value at all. So, whatever...