I'm shocked that this is a topic of debate. Considering the seriousness of the matter, I was certainly hoping for, and expecting, an official manufacturer's guidance, at the very least in the manual. This lack leaves me uneasy. An internet debate isn't what I would gamble literal life and limb on.
Yes, I've seen pictures of the curved, not slotted, jack stands used at the pinch welds. If the pinch weld bends, that sounds really bad, not just in terms of damage, but because it suggests that something (eg. jack stand position or support profile) is not being used as designed. I've also seen them used on a flat area just behind the pinch welds... there's no way I'm experimenting with "novel" positions.
I guess I will have to carefully used the stands at the pinch welds. At least it's an improvement vs nothing. I was livid to find out a family member was using the jack as a stand, and without any other safety, just based on the "locking" feature of the jack, even though it has warning stickers explicitly warning against using it as a support. It boggles my mind how some can literally risk life to save a (very) few dollars or minutes.
Jack stands aside, I still need to figure out how to raise the vehicle if the floor jack doesn't work under the official jack points. I could try jacking from the pinch weld on one side and put a jack stand, then do the same at other side, but I don't know if that would be ok, since it won't be purely vertical motion.