Dot 3 Dot 4 and Dot 5.1 (sometimes labeled Dot4+) are all compatible and can mix just fine.
Dot 5 should NOT be mixed with anything else(it is silicone based isntad of petrolium based)
Dot 5 is widely regarded to eat away all of the fittings & seals of normal fluid. However there is a minority arguement that if the system is 100% flushed of petrolium fluid it might not eat the fittings. Who knows until someone actually does it!
If your brakes fade after pad and rotor upgrades, and you can afford it, use dot 4+ or dot 5.1. If they still fade, you simply need larger, stronger calipers with larger pads and rotors with more mass.
Gridlyne START by making sure the bleeds are all tight and not leaking!!!
2-Look all around the master cylinder and the vacuum assist for fluid. One of the oldest shop tricks in the world is to take a flat-blade screwdrive between the seal and give it a tap creatin a leak that MUST be fixed!
3-checking the ends of all the rubber hoses and fittings at the calipers, on rubber brake lines at the master cylinder, under the car at the front/rear split fittings (front right and rear left share a line and vice versa)
Maybe you just blead the brakes and didn't add enough fluid to it!