Tracemark56:
Some questions . . .
-1- Have frequent/premature rotor replacements been required on all 4 wheels, just front or rear, or just one wheel?
-2- Were the pad / rotor replacements performed by an independent shop, a dealer, or by a DIY enthusiast?
-3- Does any driver of your Avalon have a habit of placing their left foot on or just above the brake pedal, even when not braking? (I often do this to reduce emergency reaction time)
-4- What approximate percentage of your driving is "highway" (infrequent stops)?
-5- Is this vehicle typically stored in a humid location?
-6- Is this vehicle typically used daily?
-7- Approximately what percentage of the original pad thickness remains at replacement?
-8- When the rotors were replaced, did anyone complain or comment that a rotor was fused to its hub and difficult to remove?
I personally replaced the brake pads on my Avalon at approximately 30,000, 60,000 and 90,000 miles. I exclusively used Akebono ProACT replacement pads, and re-used the original shims and hardware. The rotors were never replaced or resurfaced (always looked fine to me). Driving was approximately 20% highway and 80% suburban, with the need for hard braking rarely occurring. I never experienced any of the symptoms you described, nor did I notice any significant improvement or degradation of braking characteristics after each pad replacement. Therefore, I think your problems are atypical and likely have an underlying mechanical or procedural cause.
For reference, I documented my first pad change procedures, and re-used them for the 2nd and 3rd replacements as well. They can be found here:
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