as long as it works =)

 

As long as the engine was cold when you tried to remove the plugs, you should be fine.
Id gap them at what was recommended. .055 is actually too wide and (almost to the point of the plugs being worn-out) will result in a weaker spark (might not burn as much fuel as if you gapped it at the correct gap).
Just a little FYI, the correct spark plug gap is .031 (according to the Toyota service manual for a '90 4Runner)

 

Did you get NGK or Denso plugs?

 

Keep going with the #1 plug dude.. it will come out, just don't force it too much. I had that problem with one of my plugs and just kept going until it finally gave in and came out. After you take it out make sure you lubricate the one going in just slightly with oil or antiseize so that it doesn't happen again.