The Toyota list price online for the actuator is $225. The discount price online is about $170, (Olathe Toyota Parts Online) which is about what shops usually pay. They will usually mark it up legitimately to the retail price to cover part warranty and the overhead of ordering and receiving. Sounds to me like this guy is overcharging you. Also not a good sign that he did not know about this ribbon cable problem and repair it or get an exchange if that indeed is the problem, and it sounds like it is.
I believe parts on Ebay and Amazon are often lower quality or counterfeits - not always of course, but enough stories so that I avoid them. RockAuto seems to be a legit source. They sell some inferior parts, but I am not aware that they sell counterfeits, and so I believe I know I get what I pay for. Dorman is a major aftermarket supplier. Their blend door actuator is about $120 from Autozone. RockAuto has some brands I am not familiar with for about $70 and below. Not sure I would trust anything cheaper than $70.
The one thing that you can get on EBay that is legit is a repaired board. There are several small shops which will send you a repaired board for about $200 plus a deposit which is refunded when you return your bad board.
The Toyota part number for the control assembly is
55904-48110
Discount price is a little over $700.
On Car-part.com, a good source of used parts, I see $200 to $400, so the Ebay rebuilds are a pretty good deal.
Dorman also makes a no-solder repair kit: 599-040.
Autozone sells it for about $130. I have not tried it, so I don't know if there are any issues with it, but I won't hesitate to try it if I was unsure of the soldering part.
And to be clear, as you said, the blend door actuator is not just behind the temperature knob. It is down next to the passenger’s left foot behind that removable panel.