Vernstar, your price paid is much more reasonable. It is always such a let down to see those final numbers with taxes, title, etc...trust me, I know, it SUCKS!
And of course the Highlander is brand new, and people will pay MSRP or close to it.
All I am saying is that with the addition of the Platnium package, Toyota has managed to push the price of this fully loaded vehicle in mid $40s, which you can get a nicely equipped Audi Q5, Acura MDX etc (all luxury brands, whereas Toyota isn't).
Just not sure what the Lexus RX offers over the Highlander, you can now get just about everything on the Highlander (except Mark Levinson audio, HID lights...)
That's a lot of scratch for a Toyota. If you aren't inclined to need a 3rd SUV, but have $45k to spend on an AWD vehicle, you can get a very nicely equipped AWD BMW 328 sedan for $45k.
There are a LOT of luxury vehicles at that price point, so a loaded Highlander is playing in the luxury market.